Why You? No, Really. Why You?
Most of us doing marketing skip that question. Not because we're all lazy, but because we're too busy doing things we arguably shouldn't be doing. There's a quota to hit, a pipeline to fill, and a board meeting on Thursday. So we write the website copy, design the brochure, and launch the campaign, all without ever sitting down to honestly answer the one question every single customer is quietly asking: Why you?
If you don't know the answer to that one question, then it is entirely unreasonable to think your customer will. Why, better yet, how would they? And saying you are "innovative," "customer-focused," and "best-in-class" is not a correct answer. One could convincingly argue that they are the absence of one.
You Are Not Entitled To An Opinion. You Are Entitled To An Informed Opinion.
Most people remember Darth Vader saying, "Luke, I am your father." He never said it. The actual line is "No, I am your father." But millions of people who have seen the film dozens of times swear otherwise. This isn't a trick or a glitch in the Matrix. It's how human memory works, and if you're in the business of doing the art and science of marketing, this shouldn't stop you from being interested enough to keep reading.
This phenomenon has a name that you've maybe heard before: the Mandela Effect. This is when entire groups of people share the same false memory, with the same unshakable confidence.
Where Does Marketing Actually Live?
Most organizational charts lie about how marketing works through clean boxes and reporting lines, but they hide the real question of where marketing ends and everything else begins. The answer matters because unclear boundaries create confusion and conflict that masquerade as strategy disagreements:
• Sales complains marketing doesn't deliver leads.
• Marketing complains sales don't follow the narrative.
• Product says marketing overpromises.
• Strategy says marketing doesn't understand the market.
Personality conflicts? Maybe a fraction, but they're symptoms of undefined decision rights and a misunderstanding about marketing being the translation layer between strategic intent and market reality. How so?
Ask Follow-up Questions
That is probably obvious.
But asking open follow-up questions is one of the easiest ways to uncover deeper insights about how your marketing campaigns resonate with your target audience. Of course, the principal difficulty with them is coming up with the questions themselves in the moment. I've shared a range of questions that are widely applicable across many marketing research conversations.
The Measurement Illusion: Nothing Is Truly Quantifiable
Despite the beliefs of some psychologists and promises of Martech vendors, nothing related to human psychology and behavior is absolutely quantifiable. Nothing. But we live in an era of attribution models, conversion funnels, and predictive analytics, complete with dashboards that promise precision and a clear course of action. This mathematical certainty is largely an illusion because we human beings aren't equations. We're messy, contradictory, and influenced by thousands of unmeasurable variables, including the fight someone had that morning, the song in their head, the memory triggered by your brand color, and the cultural context they bring to your message.
Your Decisions Are Shaped Before You Ever Make Them
Your Decisions Are Shaped Before You Ever Make Them
We marketers have built entire functions around the assumption that choice happens in the moment, at the shelf, on the landing page, during the demo. Unfortunately, choice isn't a point-in-time event. It's the endpoint of a long chain of impressions, exposures, and associations accumulating long before your customer enters an active buying cycle. You're probably thinking this is just semantic. It's not. Why? Because you aren't just competing for attention in-market engineering, you're trying to shape the mental habitat in which their selection feels inevitable.
Denial Is A Save Now, Pay Later Scheme
Believing that others will react as we would is the single most dangerous myth in marketing. Only human beings can look directly at something, have all the information they need to make an accurate prediction, perhaps even momentarily make the accurate prediction, and then say that it isn't so.
Read Books And Become Better At What You Do
Yes, it's important to keep abreast of the latest technological developments and tools of the moment for reasons that are not germane to this musing. And it is equally important to read (or listen to) books that reveal the consistent and pervasive variables of human nature. Why? Because within those books are timeless truths that will help you better understand how to communicate in an impactful and even meaningful way with the audience you seek to serve.
84% Is Only 16% Less Than 100%
84% of purchase decisions are made before shopping even begins, according to new research tracking 1.2 million consumer journeys across 200+ categories, meaning that by the time your prospect actively shops, the decision is already made.
Over months and years, your favorite and not-so-favorite brands build neural pathways beneath your conscious awareness so that when the buying moment arrives, what feels like a rational choice is actually the echo of impressions accumulated long ago.
Stuck Because Of Where You Are Or Because Of What You're Carrying?
You probably aren't feeling weighed down by a lack of opportunity or talent. Or maybe you are. And most of us are a bit buried under the things we haven't let go of, including the habits we've stopped questioning, the patterns we keep feeding, the noise we mistake for progress.
Corporate Identity Is Not Brand Identity
Corporate identity is more than your logo and color scheme. It is the entire ecosystem through which your organization presents itself to the world. While brand identity focuses narrowly on customer perception, corporate identity encompasses much more, including how employees, investors, and the broader public understand who you are as an organization.
The Performative Nature Of Everything These Days
Welcome to the digital high school cafeteria where everyone competes for attention with louder claims, flashier presentations, and more outrageous promises.
Have you joined the performance circus or are you building something serious?
"Correlation Isn't Causation," But Do You Know Why?
When faced with a deluge of information, many a marketer will fall prey to the data dredging trap, leading to drawing false conclusions from the random patterns that appear. Those patterns can appear remarkably convincing, especially when analyzing multiple variables simultaneously. This "data dredging" effect explains why so many research findings fail to replicate and why misleading correlations flood social media and information outlets
Opinion-driven debates are garbage. Evidence-based decisions are not.
Market sizing blends analytical rigor with strategic judgment. Demand curves defy mathematical functions, data fragments and biases proliferate, and disruptive technologies redraw boundaries overnight. Therefore, responsible practitioners run sensitivity analyses, triangulate top-down and bottom-up approaches, and openly disclose assumptions.
Trust the process. Tend the garden. Watch what blooms.
You can't force a breakthrough campaign. You can't manufacture genuine brand passion. But you can plant seeds and create the environment where marketing mastery grows. Those seeds might not sprout for months or years. Plant enough seeds and tend the soil consistently, and breakthroughs will bloom.